Do opposites attract?

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While attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other, what happens when they discover each other's personality traits - does it lead to a dent in the relationship or do these minor differences help the couple to complete each other? Do couples who are completely opposite to each other make a better match in the long run? Can a relationship survive personality differences? Or is it wise to select a partner who is similar to you?

My Views on this : -

I don't think so that attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other. Though they attract towards each other for some time but after knowing each other attitude, ideas towards life, behavior towards situations, thoughts towards any thing, they can easily judge that they are totally different from each other but they don't want to accept it because they are in love. But when you go for personal space and then even if a single issue goes against your thinking then it turns into anger and then you quarrel and fight often. In this type of situations a healthy n happy relationship is not possible for long term. Because after some time they are unable to understand that why this person(he/she) is behaving like this and why he/she is not thinking in same manner he/she does. In this situation they gets frustrated.

Although some people gives some good and scientific example that :- According to Science "Opposite poles attracts each other and ALL objects attract each other with a force of gravitational attraction"... But one more thing is true that is :- When distance become too far and opposites cross the certain limits that time atraction and gravitational force become Zero... This is also proved by Science. Correct...So when all things crossed the limit that time any emotional and scientific theory goes wrong.

If the differences are minor then the couple can complete each other by overtaking or being responsible for other person's attitude and they can try to understand each other. Couples who are completely opposite to each other they never make a better match in the long run. Relationship can't survive personality differences. That is why... it is wise to select a partner who is similar to you,in mental level and maturity level too. His/her perception towards life and lifestyle should be same. Only that time a relationship will be happy and healthy for long run.

Look Matters

Have you ever asked yourself, why do we lose weight, why do we go to parlour, why we want perfect hair cut, why we are looking for a nice dress? Who doesn't want to look good? It boots up our confidence level & gives us feel good factor. Am I right? Yes I am.


Looks matter in each & every field of life. Either in official life or in Personal life. When you dressed well & clean shaved and going to attend a meeting, you can feel yourself as center of attraction. People listen you very well, when your complete look is impressive. Same with girls. When they feel that they are looking better than other girls they gain some boost. Look always works.

When you are young & in the initial stages of love, look matters the most. I am not saying it always matters 100 %, but when you are looking for your partner, looks definitely matters. Though for a healthy & long relationship other things are important, but for love and first attraction look matter. Internal beauty comes after look . First a person gets attracted towards some one, who looks beautiful or handsome as he/she desires.

I am not denying, after some time when you both are in healthy & good relationship, look hardly matters. I strongly believe that behavior is more important & looks will fade away with time.  To sustain a strong relationship mutual understanding, maturity, respect, care, love & personality, is most important qualities. 

People who say looks doesn't matter,  for them it's true, they are having good views & thoughts, keep it up. But for rest of the  people it matters. If look doesn't matter, why not all guys attracted towards a bad looking girl? Why many girls do not go for wealthy partner rather they prefer good looking partner.

As I said earlier look doesn't matter 100% but yes it matters 50%.  So according to Nidhi's views try to make yourself attractive & improve your other qualities also. There is no harm to improve yourself  with good look, dressing sense & good habits. Trust me look always matters.

There is a story in Hindu Mythology “ Once upon a time there was a Swayambar of Goddess Lakshami ( Goddess of wealth). The Swayambar was attended by God Shiva & God Vishanu. God Shiva came there with snakes on his neck, in one cloth called “Langot“ & with long & dirty hair called “ Jata”. He didn't look good enough. In other hand God “ Vishanu” was well dressed in yellow dress called “Pitambardhari” with so many gold &  gems jewelry &  fragrance called ”Itra”, so Goddess Lakshami attracted towards Vishnu & selected him as her husband. Though both God Shiva & God Vishnu having same skills & power but looks worked here very well....

So got Nidhi's Point? Moral of the story is "Look Matters".

Being Single

When ever this word comes in my mind, I ask so many question to myself.

1)What is the meaning of Being Single?
2)You have a boyfriend or girlfriend, even then you call yourself Single?
3)How long can anybody be single?

I have got different answer for these questions.

1)What is the meaning of being single?

If you live alone, “Alone” means you don't have any friend (neither male nor female),if you can not share your feelings with anyone (neither with older nor with younger) it means you are single. If you have a friend & if you share your all feelings, how could any one be single?

2)You have a boyfriend or girlfriend, even then you call yourself Single?

If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, with him/her you can share all your feelings, with him/her you make relationship mental & physical. Then how can you say that you are single. Just because you have not married. It's not fair.

3)How long can anybody be single?

If you think that “Being Single” means “Not Getting Married”, So how long can anyone be single? Many people say that Being Single is the best part of life. Trust me they just say like that. But they themselfs want to become Double as early as possible. Have become Double through either getting boyfriend or girlfriend or by getting Married. Is that true? Yes it is. Though the way will be different to become double.

Singles always ready to Mingle. They always look for a partner who loves, cares & gives respect. For Boys partner should take care of all his needs & for girls partner should furnish safe & secure future to her.

That's the biggest truth of life. Tough you live your life as single, these thought always comes in your mind. Whether You accept it or not. After certain age when you think, you have achieved all those things you wished for, that time you realize you should have your partner. When you see your friends or your relatives who have happy married life that time you wish for partner. Am I right? Yes I am.

This is life, no body can deny the basic need of human being, either it is mental, social or physical. You have to find someone with whom you can spend your whole life. Neither friends nor relatives can stay life long with you. They have their own world, family, liabilities & duties. No one can stop their life for you. So you have to become Double. You can live & enjoy single life as long as you want, after certain time you should be Double.

For Single star Mingel & take your time to be Double. Best Wishes & Blessings From Nidhi.

To Know The Road Ahead, Ask Those Coming...

How come? I read it some where & started thinking on it. How this is possible? How can we trust any body? Might be the person expressing wrong views? Some times it happens, there are people who don't want to give right information to others. These people don't want that other person do the exactly same thing or even perform in better way. So might be that person who walked on the road gives you false information about road, task & experience. Some people do it intentionally & some might not. You can't trust any one blindly & make your decisions according to others views.

The person who is coming back shares his/her experience. If the person don't like something about that road, place, work, task etc, the person try to convince you that, what he/she thinks is right in his/her views. If the person likes that road, place, work & task. He/she try to convince you that, what he/she feels is right. But according to others experience how one could decided what is right or wrong for them.

Every one's way of thinking, interest, knowledge, behavior towards that situations & their skills might be differ from other person. Some times what other people like, is totally different from them. Even in the same given conditions, circumstances & environment, two person could react differently. Because every one's capacity, thinking ability & capability to fight with circumstances might differ.

Every one can explain their own experience, but you can't assume that, whatever the person is telling, also correct for you. You just guess the conditions & situations from other person's experience and try to deal in best way according to given or same conditions. Try to listen every experience from other people, do your home work, means try to understand what would you do? Make a plan, put all effort & do it. With hard work, you will definitely get success. Try for the best but prepare for the worst.

You should search & know the road ahead by yourself. That is Nidhi's way to find the Road. There is a saying in India which is perfectly fits " Listen everyone, Do what your heart says." This is also like Learning By Doing.....

SRK Detained At USA Airport

Though I am a huge fan of SRK but, According to my experience it is not a big deal in USA & European Countries. They do these acts just because of security. There is no relationship between name. It is not related to being a khan. We & so many others have faced this situation couple of times. Just because we are normal person it haven't become a big issue. Even we have remove our Malgalsutra's some times. If you go to any important place in US like Statue Of Liberty or any Sky Scrapers like Sears Tower, Empire State you have to pass through the security.

They never see that which race you belongs to. If they have any doubt, on any person they just grab them & if the person is not guilty, they will leave him with apology. I think this tight security is good for a common man & it is just for our security only. Though our community is minor community here so we think it happens only with us. There is no relation with being a Khan.

But no doubt he is a world famous personality. When for him it took 2hr time to questioning just think of others & simple people, who faced this kind of situations. How much they struggle. But I must say that American authorities should adopt some other way so that world famous personalities are not embarrassed like this....

Love

What is love? It is a feeling, feeling of soul for some one "Extra-Special". For me it is "Extra-Special". "Extra-Special" because we do love so many people in so many other aspects & ways, but when this "Extra-Special" feeling comes for one "Extra-Special" person it is "Love".

We can feel this Love anywhere, anytime, anyplace & in any age. Though that person is not near to you but you can feel him/her very near to you. When you can feel that you are so happy, everything looks beautiful, you can do anything, you can face & fight with any problem. That is "Love". It can happen with any body & in any circumstances. Trust me every time the feeling is beautiful & it's intensity is same as we felt when we were young. There is no need to be close to that person. You can stay away from that person & feel that romantic feeling. You can feel that passion, craziness & madness. That's the way of Love.

Some times distance will increase Love & going far away or being apart, will make you believe & realize that you are in love with some one "Extra-Special". Without him/her you can't even imagine yourself. You can feel, if that person goes away from your life, you can't survive, without him/ her you will die. Your heart beats fast, you can feel emptiness inside, you can't think any other thing beside him/her. Though you never touched him/her but you can feel that touch. You badly want to share your feelings towards him/her. You can feel that you have become Mad, Crazy & obsessed towards him/her.

I think some times "People never know how special someone is until they leave you. May be sometimes it's important to leave some one, so they can realize how special someone really is". Whenever you feel like this, trust me you are in "Love" with some one "Extra-Special".

When you feel you can do anything, anything I mean, anything for him/her. When you feel that, you never get hurt by his/her actions. When you pray for his/her goodwill without missing any moment. When you just want to give your love to him/her without thinking about any returns. If the person whom you love & he/she just knows about your feelings & the person accepts it. When you love without condition...that's it... nothing else... That time you are in "Love" with some one "Extra-Special" this Love is really "Ever Lasting Love","Beyond the limit of Love" & This Is "Nidhi's-Love" .

Do men expect too much from women?

Of course yes ! Men expect too much from a woman. He wants an open mind friend in his wife or girlfriend when he interects with his friends. A brilliant colleague when she is in office. She should be similar to his mother when subject of cooking and care comes. He expects a lot from a woman. Besides this she should take care of their children & in-laws without even a single mistake. when question raise that which is important her career or family, she must choose family.

Even when a man wants to marry a girl that time he thinks that girl should be modern, intelligent, career oriented, good looking, attractive, friendly, but after marriage his views changed. How? Though she should be modern but she should understand my families value, culture and she should behaves like a obedient daughter in-law. The girl with whom he wants to spend her night out in bar, pub or disco, weekends in shopping, cinema, long drive etc, etc after marriage he hates every thing. No disco, no night outs, no cinema, no shopping, he loves only sleeping and passing comments and teasing her on every activity.Or he wants to go out with his friends only.

As a daughter she has to obey her father's rules/instructions, as a sister she has to fallow her brother's guidance, as a girlfriend she has to fulfill her boy friend's demands, as a wife she has to fallow her husband's rules, as a daughter in law she has to obey her in-laws rules, as a mother she has to fulfill her children's need, with all these she should do work. She will lose her identity in this race. Trust me it is difficult. Men wants to play her number of roles simultaneously. A guy realize all these kind of problems only when her mom or her daughter phases same problems in their lives & fight with these kind of situations but he never understand his wife's or girlfriend's problems.

Man should understand that to days women's are trying to do all these kind of work simultaneously & succeeds too. But women's have some limitation, limitations because of her physical strength. She is weaker in physical & emotional matter, it's true. We should understand her difficulties & respect her.

Long run relationship…

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While attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other, what happens when they discover each other's personality traits - does it lead to a dent in the relationship or do these minor differences help the couple to complete each other? Do couples who are completely opposite to each other make a better match in the long run? Can a relationship survive personality differences? Or is it wise to select a partner who is similar to you?

Here is my views :-

I don't think so that attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other. Though they attracted towards each other for some time but after knowing each other attitude, ideas towards life, behavior towards situations, thoughts towards any thing or any point, they can easily judge that they are totally different from each other but they don't want to accept it, if they are in love. But after some time they realize that it was only affection of opposite sex, nothing else. In this type of situations a healthy and happy relationship is not possible for long term. Because after some time they are unable to understand that why this person (he/she) is behaving like this and why he/she is not thinking in the same manner as he/she does. In this situation they gets frustrated and this kind of relationship gives fight, tension, frustration and guilt only.

In this situation it is advisable that happily apart from each other, pray good future for each other, when ever he/she wants your favour always try best for him/her and keep contact as a good and faithful friend.

If the differences are minor then only couple can complete each other by overtaking or being responsible for other person's attitude and they can try to understand each other. Because it is true that no one is prefect , no one has all the good qualities , no one is ideal . Every body has some positive things and some negative things . You are the person who can see the positive side of that person and try to overcome negative side. It is the matter of vision. But yes some time it is true that, few person has 80% or 90% good qualities that time he/she should be really Ideal, Ideal for any body and in any situation, but after all he/she is a human being, so some bad qualities must be inside him/her . So leave that bad part always.

Couples who are completely opposite to each other they never make a better match in the long run. Relationship can't survive personality differences. That is why... it is wise to select a partner who is similar to you in mental level and maturity level too. His/her perception towards life and lifestyle should be same. Only that time a relationship will be happy and healthy for long run.

Will the Gay Sex Ruling Help Preventing HIV/AIDS?...In India

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Will the Gay Sex Ruling Help Preventing HIV/AIDS?

How come it will be possible? When our Law told previously that it is a crime. According to law it is unnatural. We know this kind of activities are treated during Third Degree Torture. And we all know the meaning of torture.

India is known for it's Culture and Tradition. So will this be our “Culture For Future”? No, never. Why people don't want to understand that even Society like America is not able to digest it. Here in USA we see everyday on news so many problems related to this. So many protest held against it, So many problems discussed everyday on television. Not only in India but other part of World also realized it is not good for human being.

And the main topic :- Will the Gay Sex Ruling Help Preventing HIV/AIDS?

I don't think that there is any relationship between HIV/ AIDS and Homosexuality. Prevention from HIV/AIDS is part of awareness. How much awareness regarding HIV/AIDS we spread in our society, we will be safe from this. This is not the way to prevent HIV/AIDS. For Prevention from HIV/AIDS we have to talk about it with our children, our friends, our colleges, our parents too. According to my knowledge talking on bold subject in our society is very difficult. No body wants to listen and talk about such kind of topics. Though we know that in modern/ technical/ scientific age every body reads & watch many things on TV & Net also. So I think it is better to start talking about these matter with your children in heathy & medical way, rather than not discussing and letting them collect wrong information from other sources and get confused.

Homosexuality will increase crimes and criminal mind in our society because it is not natural. By this we are going against human nature. This will lead our society to fall apart. In our nation we gave so many information about population control, but we can see the result. Nothing will change by just creating law.In our country there are so many problems, those are related to common man. Why don't we solve them first? Biggest issues like equality, women liberty, raps etc etc. When country like America is not able to digest it how can our society will digest it?

Our Law gives us so many rights, but it's complete knowledge & correct utilisation is necessary to successful implementation. According to my knowledge this law is not going to prevent HIV/AIDS. In our nation this is necessary to speak about HIV/AIDS. We need to talk about this.

My tributes to Michael Jackson

I heard this shocking news in my car on FM 105 radio. When I was coming back from WalMart at near about 6;30pm, yesterday. I couldn't even believe on that news. I asked my hubby twice...What? What? RJ is saying that Michael Jackson Died through Cardiac Attack??? It was a tragic news.

I was shocked because from my childhood I am listening his rocking music & we both sister are big fan of his moon walk...Suddenly I recalled my childhood days when we both sister watched is performance with my Father on TV. Actually my father is also a big fan of him.

I had a dream that whenever I will get the chance I will definitely go to see his performance. But now it is my dream only. I will never get a chance to see his performance. So said.

He was a Legend. Though he was surrounded by so many controversies but it's a big loss for forever. Controversies, Up & Down are the part of life. But his death is too bad...