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While attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other, what happens when they discover each other's personality traits - does it lead to a dent in the relationship or do these minor differences help the couple to complete each other? Do couples who are completely opposite to each other make a better match in the long run? Can a relationship survive personality differences? Or is it wise to select a partner who is similar to you?
My Views on this : -
I don't think so that attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other. Though they attract towards each other for some time but after knowing each other attitude, ideas towards life, behavior towards situations, thoughts towards any thing, they can easily judge that they are totally different from each other but they don't want to accept it because they are in love. But when you go for personal space and then even if a single issue goes against your
thinking then it turns into anger and then you quarrel and fight often. In this type of situations a healthy n happy relationship is not possible for long term. Because after some time they are unable to understand that why this person(he/she) is behaving like this and why he/she is not thinking in same manner he/she does. In this situation they gets frustrated.
Although some people gives some good and scientific example that :- According to Science "Opposite poles attracts each other and ALL objects attract each other with a force of gravitational attraction"... But one more thing is true that is :- When distance become too far and opposites cross the certain limits that time atraction and gravitational force become Zero... This is also proved by Science. Correct...So when all things crossed the limit that time any emotional and scientific theory goes wrong.
If the differences are minor then the couple can complete each other by overtaking or being responsible for other person's attitude and they can try to understand each other. Couples who are completely opposite to each other they never make a better match in the long run. Relationship can't survive personality differences. That is why... it is wise to select a partner who is similar to you,in mental level and maturity level too. His/her perception towards life and lifestyle should be same. Only that time a relationship will be happy and healthy for long run.
While attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other, what happens when they discover each other's personality traits - does it lead to a dent in the relationship or do these minor differences help the couple to complete each other? Do couples who are completely opposite to each other make a better match in the long run? Can a relationship survive personality differences? Or is it wise to select a partner who is similar to you?
My Views on this : -
I don't think so that attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other. Though they attract towards each other for some time but after knowing each other attitude, ideas towards life, behavior towards situations, thoughts towards any thing, they can easily judge that they are totally different from each other but they don't want to accept it because they are in love. But when you go for personal space and then even if a single issue goes against your
thinking then it turns into anger and then you quarrel and fight often. In this type of situations a healthy n happy relationship is not possible for long term. Because after some time they are unable to understand that why this person(he/she) is behaving like this and why he/she is not thinking in same manner he/she does. In this situation they gets frustrated.Although some people gives some good and scientific example that :- According to Science "Opposite poles attracts each other and ALL objects attract each other with a force of gravitational attraction"... But one more thing is true that is :- When distance become too far and opposites cross the certain limits that time atraction and gravitational force become Zero... This is also proved by Science. Correct...So when all things crossed the limit that time any emotional and scientific theory goes wrong.
If the differences are minor then the couple can complete each other by overtaking or being responsible for other person's attitude and they can try to understand each other. Couples who are completely opposite to each other they never make a better match in the long run. Relationship can't survive personality differences. That is why... it is wise to select a partner who is similar to you,in mental level and maturity level too. His/her perception towards life and lifestyle should be same. Only that time a relationship will be happy and healthy for long run.
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आप सही कहती हैं निधि जी। मैं आपके विचारों से पूरी तरह सहमत हंू। विचार, सोच, व्यवहार और ऐसी ही ढेर सारी बातों का पता तब चलता है जब दो लोग साथ होते हैं, साथ रहते हैं और उनमेें एक दूसरे से कितनी भिन्नताएं हैं इसका भी सही मायने में तभी पता चलता है। बस स्वीकार कर पाना मुश्किल होता है। इस बारे में यही चर्चा चार-छह दिन पहले मेरी एक दोस्त से भी हुई थी। मुद्दा यही था।
वो कहावत है न, शादी से पहले चंद्रमुखी, शादी के कुछ समय बाद सूरजमुखी और पांच-चार साल गुजर जाएं तो ज्वालामुखी।
आपने जो बात तीसरे और अंतिम पैरा में कही है, वह काफी अहम है। अपने मैंटल और मैच्योरिटी लैवल के साथी के साथ खुशहाल जीवन संभव है।
एक बात कहंू, आप मेरे ब्लॉग पर नहीं आतीं, तो शायद मैं आपसे इतनी जल्दी वाकिफ नहीं हो पाता। पत्रकार हंू और शुरू से देश के एक बड़े अखबार के फीचर विभाग से जुड़ा हुआ हंू, इसलिए विषयों की समझ थोड़ी परिपक्व हुई है। इसी आधार पर कह रहा हंू, आप लिखती बहुत ही अच्छा हैं। वह भी तर्कसंगत बात रखते हुए।
स्वतंत्रता दिवस की हार्दिक शुभकामनाएं। मिलते रहिएगा।
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