Do opposites attract?

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While attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other, what happens when they discover each other's personality traits - does it lead to a dent in the relationship or do these minor differences help the couple to complete each other? Do couples who are completely opposite to each other make a better match in the long run? Can a relationship survive personality differences? Or is it wise to select a partner who is similar to you?

My Views on this : -

I don't think so that attraction is enough to bring two people close to each other. Though they attract towards each other for some time but after knowing each other attitude, ideas towards life, behavior towards situations, thoughts towards any thing, they can easily judge that they are totally different from each other but they don't want to accept it because they are in love. But when you go for personal space and then even if a single issue goes against your thinking then it turns into anger and then you quarrel and fight often. In this type of situations a healthy n happy relationship is not possible for long term. Because after some time they are unable to understand that why this person(he/she) is behaving like this and why he/she is not thinking in same manner he/she does. In this situation they gets frustrated.

Although some people gives some good and scientific example that :- According to Science "Opposite poles attracts each other and ALL objects attract each other with a force of gravitational attraction"... But one more thing is true that is :- When distance become too far and opposites cross the certain limits that time atraction and gravitational force become Zero... This is also proved by Science. Correct...So when all things crossed the limit that time any emotional and scientific theory goes wrong.

If the differences are minor then the couple can complete each other by overtaking or being responsible for other person's attitude and they can try to understand each other. Couples who are completely opposite to each other they never make a better match in the long run. Relationship can't survive personality differences. That is why... it is wise to select a partner who is similar to you,in mental level and maturity level too. His/her perception towards life and lifestyle should be same. Only that time a relationship will be happy and healthy for long run.

Look Matters

Have you ever asked yourself, why do we lose weight, why do we go to parlour, why we want perfect hair cut, why we are looking for a nice dress? Who doesn't want to look good? It boots up our confidence level & gives us feel good factor. Am I right? Yes I am.


Looks matter in each & every field of life. Either in official life or in Personal life. When you dressed well & clean shaved and going to attend a meeting, you can feel yourself as center of attraction. People listen you very well, when your complete look is impressive. Same with girls. When they feel that they are looking better than other girls they gain some boost. Look always works.

When you are young & in the initial stages of love, look matters the most. I am not saying it always matters 100 %, but when you are looking for your partner, looks definitely matters. Though for a healthy & long relationship other things are important, but for love and first attraction look matter. Internal beauty comes after look . First a person gets attracted towards some one, who looks beautiful or handsome as he/she desires.

I am not denying, after some time when you both are in healthy & good relationship, look hardly matters. I strongly believe that behavior is more important & looks will fade away with time.  To sustain a strong relationship mutual understanding, maturity, respect, care, love & personality, is most important qualities. 

People who say looks doesn't matter,  for them it's true, they are having good views & thoughts, keep it up. But for rest of the  people it matters. If look doesn't matter, why not all guys attracted towards a bad looking girl? Why many girls do not go for wealthy partner rather they prefer good looking partner.

As I said earlier look doesn't matter 100% but yes it matters 50%.  So according to Nidhi's views try to make yourself attractive & improve your other qualities also. There is no harm to improve yourself  with good look, dressing sense & good habits. Trust me look always matters.

There is a story in Hindu Mythology “ Once upon a time there was a Swayambar of Goddess Lakshami ( Goddess of wealth). The Swayambar was attended by God Shiva & God Vishanu. God Shiva came there with snakes on his neck, in one cloth called “Langot“ & with long & dirty hair called “ Jata”. He didn't look good enough. In other hand God “ Vishanu” was well dressed in yellow dress called “Pitambardhari” with so many gold &  gems jewelry &  fragrance called ”Itra”, so Goddess Lakshami attracted towards Vishnu & selected him as her husband. Though both God Shiva & God Vishnu having same skills & power but looks worked here very well....

So got Nidhi's Point? Moral of the story is "Look Matters".

Love

What is love? It is a feeling, feeling of soul for some one "Extra-Special". For me it is "Extra-Special". "Extra-Special" because we do love so many people in so many other aspects & ways, but when this "Extra-Special" feeling comes for one "Extra-Special" person it is "Love".

We can feel this Love anywhere, anytime, anyplace & in any age. Though that person is not near to you but you can feel him/her very near to you. When you can feel that you are so happy, everything looks beautiful, you can do anything, you can face & fight with any problem. That is "Love". It can happen with any body & in any circumstances. Trust me every time the feeling is beautiful & it's intensity is same as we felt when we were young. There is no need to be close to that person. You can stay away from that person & feel that romantic feeling. You can feel that passion, craziness & madness. That's the way of Love.

Some times distance will increase Love & going far away or being apart, will make you believe & realize that you are in love with some one "Extra-Special". Without him/her you can't even imagine yourself. You can feel, if that person goes away from your life, you can't survive, without him/ her you will die. Your heart beats fast, you can feel emptiness inside, you can't think any other thing beside him/her. Though you never touched him/her but you can feel that touch. You badly want to share your feelings towards him/her. You can feel that you have become Mad, Crazy & obsessed towards him/her.

I think some times "People never know how special someone is until they leave you. May be sometimes it's important to leave some one, so they can realize how special someone really is". Whenever you feel like this, trust me you are in "Love" with some one "Extra-Special".

When you feel you can do anything, anything I mean, anything for him/her. When you feel that, you never get hurt by his/her actions. When you pray for his/her goodwill without missing any moment. When you just want to give your love to him/her without thinking about any returns. If the person whom you love & he/she just knows about your feelings & the person accepts it. When you love without condition...that's it... nothing else... That time you are in "Love" with some one "Extra-Special" this Love is really "Ever Lasting Love","Beyond the limit of Love" & This Is "Nidhi's-Love" .